My book, co-authored with my dad, Dr. Wayne Dyer, titled Don’t Die With Your Music Still In You: A Daughter’s Response to Her Father’s Wisdom, is set to be released on June 16, 2014.
Growing up with spiritual parents has taught me that receiving all the love and wisdom in the world is a beautiful thing, but it won’t help you, until you learn to love and treasure every part of yourself.
This self-understanding was a long time coming—I have struggled with my biggest fear, which has always been living someone else’s dharma, life, or dream while being too afraid to go after my own. I don’t proclaim to be an expert or guru; I would like to share my life with anyone who is interested so that hopefully you will feel comfortable sharing your authentic self with others as well.
Co-authored with my dad, Dr. Wayne Dyer, I have written a book about growing up in a spiritual environment and what I have learned about self-worth and following my dharma.
My main passion is connecting and sharing with others in a meaningful way to promote conversation and maintain authentic self-expression. I like sharing a real and vulnerable side of myself while working to encourage others to accept that side of themselves as well. I also enjoy cooking, reading, entertaining and having dinner parties. I live in South Florida with my fiancé. Our favorite hobby is traveling together. My non-profit, Stop Child Trafficking, is working to eradicate child trafficking through education and advocacy.
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“Meeting Oprah! One Super Special Wish Fulfilled”
Published March 22, 2012 on www.healyourlife.com
“Meeting the most inﬂuential woman of the 20th century has been a dream of mine since I ﬁrst started watching her show in my early teens. This past February, as I pulled up to Oprah Winfrey’s home on Maui so she could ﬁlm a show with my dad, I realized I was about to have one of my long term “wishes fulﬁlled.”
I love Oprah because she is the whole package: she looks for the good in everyone she meets; she has used The Oprah Winfrey Show to teach the world about spirituality; she has earned incredible wealth and genuinely enjoys sharing it and giving it all away; but most of all, just by being herself and allowing her true magniﬁcence to shine, she has become a beacon of light for all of humanity. Oprah Winfrey lives her dharma and in doing so, she allows her true nature to come through. What a joy it is to watch and learn from someone who loves doing what they do!
One of the biggest lessons I have learned from Oprah Winfrey is that of setting your intentions, becoming what it is you want to attract (not just asking for it), and then most important, letting go.
I have learned from both my dad and Oprah that you don’t get what you want, you get what you are. I decided to apply this philosophy to my life and to become a person who is focused on serving others and not so focused on what’s in it for me. It was really challenging for me to blindly trust that things would work out, that money I needed would show up at the right time, and that I didn’t have to strive to arrive. There were times when I felt that I wanted to be like the rest of my friends and make a set salary, to have a position in a company that told me what to do and paid me for it. At the same time, though, I knew those things weren’t me so I decided to simply trust that if I served others, I wouldn’t be left behind. I started my own foundation, www.not-for-sale.org, that focuses on raising awareness about child trafﬁcking in the United States. I became a Guardian-ad-litem, which is a volunteer advocate for abused or neglected children, and I spent a year working for free to raise money for a documentary ﬁlm, The Playground, whose cause I believe in.
I always knew I wanted to work for myself, but I was so afraid that I would fail or that I wouldn’t be able to get anything done if left to myself that I held myself back. However, when I started to focus on other people and how I could help them, I realized that the universe was clamoring to help me achieve what it was that I wanted to do. Having this knowing that things really do work out, that I can truly just let go and be at peace and everything will handle itself, is a really freeing lesson to learn. I used to feel so stuck in my career and my life, and I had this belief that I had to push and push to get everything done. Now, I have learned to set my intention, become what it is that I want to attract and then let go. In the past, when I had something that I wanted to attract in my life, I would call everyone I knew and talk about it. I would listen to their opinions on it and then start to doubt it or feel unworthy of it. Now, when I have something I would like to attract in my life, I offer myself up to the universe to become it for others ﬁrst, and I don’t talk about it with other people. When I am lacking peace in my life, I don’t ask God to please send me some peace. I ask God to please “make me an instrument of thy peace.” When I wanted a loving relationship, I asked God to please teach me how to ﬁrst truly
love myself so that I could then offer that love to someone else. Then, I assumed how it felt to really love myself, to really feel deeply loved by someone else and I concentrated on that feeling.
In 2008, I decided to make a vision board so that I could have a visual reminder of the type of person I had set my intentions on being. I wasn’t sure what type of career I wanted so instead of putting a speciﬁc job on the vision board I put words that represented feelings I would have if I were doing my dream job. I also put on my vision board words representing the man I would like to attract into my life, rather than images of a really hot guy. I also cut out photos of other people doing activities I wanted to do, like meeting children in Africa, driving an old car down the coast of Italy and going wine tasting in an exotic location. I actually glued my face over the other people’s faces so I could see myself doing these things and not just imagine them! I cut out images of a big yacht, a silver Mercedes, some nice jewelry, and I put the word “travel” all over that thing just in case the universe was being extra generous!
I also put on my vision board images of Oprah Winfrey and Ellen DeGeneres with myself right next to them and can you believe it? I had the opportunity to meet Ellen in 2009 and this past February, as Oprah put her arms around me and gave me a big hug, I was experiencing one of my long term wishes being fulﬁlled!
Pretty much everything on my vision board has come true. I went wine tasting in Sonoma this past September, I visited an African tribal village and danced with the women, I drove in a vintage Aston Martin in Sardinia in 2010 and that big yacht and silver Mercedes? Well, it turns out that my dream man has both of those, and we just recently got engaged, celebrating our four-year anniversary together. My career is heading in a direction I feel proud of and I have had the opportunity to take so many trips in the past 4 years that my friends jokingly call me “the world traveler.” So many of the material things and experiences I desired happened to show up in my life in ways that I can’t even explain or make sense of, but the truth is, that isn’t even the coolest part.
The really neat thing for me is that these material things are not the best part of this experience. The best part has been really learning to become like Oprah. I ﬁnd myself wanting to share everything I get, wanting to look for the good in everyone, and most importantly, more than anything else I want to serve others in the way that Oprah has so graciously demonstrated for me.
Learning to serve others without asking “what’s in it for me” has given me a sense of peace and purpose that feels better than any jewelry or vacation ever could!
I believe that I learned how to align myself with the power of intention by offering to others what it was that I was seeking. In doing so, I became what it was that I wanted to attract. Then, as I learned from Ms. Oprah, I let go and I let God.”
****The crazy thing is, shortly after I wrote this article, Ms. Oprah Winfrey herself put it on her website! I was so shocked and grateful. It reconﬁrmed for me what it was that I wrote in the article!
In the Fall of 2012, I wrote a letter to my father letting him know how grateful I am to have him as a dad. Since that time, my sister Skye and her musical partner Alex Woodard wrote a song out of the letter that they now perform all over the country. Then, in September of 2013, some of my family and I traveled to San Diego for my dad to film his most recent PBS show, and my Dad asked me to read the letter to him during the show. It was a great honor and I am thrilled to be part of this new PBS special which comes out next month. When I wrote this letter, my intention was to do something special for the man who does so many special things for me. I never realized it would be read all over the place! I have realized that writing someone a letter of love and gratitude is a beautiful experience for both the writer and the receiver. I plan to continue writing love letters to the people in my life that I truly love so much.
This past weekend, my dad put on a conference for 600 people here on Maui and my friend Dirk Terpstra was in the audience. Dirk wrote a blog about my letter as he felt it was touching he wanted to share it. I never really though about posting the letter on my blog myself, but realizing Dirk had a good idea, I am sharing his blog post with my letter below.
In the fall of 2012, Hay House hosted a Mediterranean cruise and one highlight of the trip was a stop at the ruins of Ephesus on the coast of Turkey where Wayne Dyer was scheduled to lecture. Wayne’s daughter Serena joined him on this inspiring trip and then wrote a very personal letter to her dad to tell him that she loves him so much.
Serena and Dirk at the Maui Event
When I was participating in the Divine Love event on Maui last weekend, Wayne Dyer chose to share his daughter’s beautiful and touching words with us. At the end of that day I met with Serena and asked her permission to share this particular letter with you. Thank you Serena!
Today I sat behind you in Ephesus, Turkey while you gave a lecture to a few hundred people who had traveled from all over the world to hear you speak. I was overcome with emotion as I saw you standing there, fulfilling your dharma while touching the lives of so many. I know you as my father, but you have always been a teacher to me as well. You have taught me that the solutions to all of life’s problems are inside of me, and that I only had to go within, be silent, and present, and know that all is well.
You never told me how to live or what to think or what to believe in. Instead, you showed me how to make each step a prayer and each word a word of love. You taught me about Rumi, St. Francis, Hafiz, Jesus, Buddha, Krishna, Mohammed, St. Germaine, Neville, and so many others. You taught me to believe in magic and miracles, and you showed me how to be in awe of the awesome world we live in.
Since the time I was brought into this world, I knew that I was safe to be exactly as I was, and that whoever I was, I was a perfect creation of God. You told me that I was God and that it was God that looks out from behind my eyes. I learned from you that I was the master of my own fate, the creator of my destiny.
Of all the lessons I have learned the thing that hit me hardest was when you said that I AM GOD. Could I really be a spark of God, a perfect creation put here on Earth with a purpose? You say this all the time, but I have always struggled with it, especially since school and society were telling me otherwise. I doubted myself, felt inferior and worried that I needed to apologize to something for even contemplating this idea. I have felt unworthy, undeserved and unsure. Although you gave me great tools, I still had to figure out how to use them on my own. Now I understand that God is love, God is beauty, and God is truth. You told me I came from an infinite space of perfection and that I will return to it one day too. Slowly I am beginning to understand.
People love you so much, and yet to me you have always been Dad. You drove me to school each morning, you taught me how to swim and ride a bike, you read me stories and you came to all my plays. As I have grown, you have encouraged me to follow my dharma and go after whatever it is that excites me. You believe in me Dad and I love you so much for that.
What do you say to someone that gave you life and then showed you how to live it? You say thank you, thank you, thank you.
POST BY: DIRK TERPSTRA – SUPER SOULS FOUNDER, www.soullove.com